Making heart-felt dua’s changed my life. It was in the depth of my depression and uttermost misery that I raised my hands to Allah and cried my heart out. Every inch of my body was grieving. Every part of my being was shattered. My last and only desperate hope was through dua. I held so tightly onto my dua’s because truthfully that’s all I had. Nobody else understood the pain that I was going through. And I was nowhere near to speaking about it to anybody. So I turned to Allah and poured. my. heart. out. I’d spend ages crying, questioning, formulating arguments, getting angry, then furious, begging for help – all within my dua’s.
Looking back I’m a little taken back by some of the things I said. I hope and don’t think I’d say some of those things again but I never held back in my duas. (which was a good thing!) I said absolutely everything that was inside of me. After all, how can you not open up to the One who so perfectly and compassionately created you? Every ounce of your being is known to Allah, how could possibly not open your heart and tears to Him?
Dua has been a life-changing miracle for me. Within my conversations with Allah, there’s been so many ups and downs, so much confusions and tears but laughter too :))) It’s weird but I feel like I’m talking to my best friend. I could go on and on, complain, talk about how this happened and she said this and I was so upset and I can’t believe it….. and all that time Allah is listening. From this ongoing journey, I’d like to share a few pieces of heartfelt wisdom and lessons from this experience:
1. Speak your heart out.
I can’t emphasise this enough. When your speaking to Allah, say everything you need to. Open your heart and don’t hold back. Allah won’t judge you. In fact He’s the only One that truly understands what you are going through. When people nod their heads in agreement with you but their hearts remain unconvinced, just know that Allah is not like that. He truly understands what you are going through – so freely tell Him and seek His help.
2. Never give up.
When you’ve made sincere dua, your natural instinct is to be on the look out for it. Your natural instinct is to think ‘when will this dua come into fruition?’ Speaking honestly from my own experience, when I would make a genuine, heart felt dua and not see the outcome as quick as I’d like it to be, I’d feel a little disheartened inside. Especially when I poured my heart and tears into that dua – I’d feel gutted inside. But I came across this hadith which gave me an immense amount of hope:
It’s either this or better. Either your dua’s are answered or you’ll receive something unimaginably better. Stay hopeful, it’s coming your way.
3. Don’t obsess over it.
Linking back to the point above, part of making heart felt dua’s is genuinely expecting that Allah will answer it but also not obsessing over the outcome. This was a huge lesson for me. It was a spiritual lesson of learning to let go and hand over my doubt and fears to Allah. The fear of what if it’s not accepted, what will happen then, what will I do….. just gently drop all of it. Replace those doubts with trust. Trust that Allah will bring you to it. Allah will put you in the right time and place, so that your dua’s can come into fruition.
From my own life, I’ve realised that my dua’s are accepted when I’m least thinking about them. When I’m going about my day, busy with my work and suddenly the dua is answered. When I’ve finally dropped the worry that’s when it happens.
4. Pray for the unimaginable.
What is that one thing, you desperately want but it feels impossible that it’ll ever happen? Got it? Now go and beg Allah for it. Miracles do happen. They happen through the medium of heart felt, soul shattering duas. The dua’s that bring you to your knees, to that point where your eyes can cry no more and your soul can hope no more. That moment where everything inside of you is shaking and you are hanging onto Allah. That desperation, that trust and that unthinkable hope – that is where you reach breakthrough.
5. Dua is the only time you express your vulnerability to Allah.
That’s what makes it so special. Who else sees your most weakest and most desperate moments? When your making genuine dua, you present your most vulnerable state to Allah. It’s a beautiful thing. You express your neediness to Allah. It’s an emotional state that you rarely ever show to anybody else.
6. Persistence is key.
I’ve spent almost a year asking Allah for something that really mattered to me. I know of a sister who spent ages making sincere dua for a good spouse and a marriage (which she has right now.) I’ve heard of parents spending years making dua for children before being blessed with twins. With anything worthwhile in life, it takes time. So when you are making dua to Allah, keep that in mind.
So there you have it, 6 of my personal insights from making heartfelt duas. I would love to hear your dua lessons and stories. So many women read this blog daily and your story and input can have a huge impact on another person. So please share your insights below! Especially those magical moments where your dua was unexpectedly/expectedly accepted. I would love to hear them!