As my blog has grown and reached a wider audience, the response has been overwhelmingly positive. I LOVE sharing and connecting with you on self development, strengthening your trust in Allah, emotional growth, health, wellness, happiness – all that delicious, exciting stuff! Whilst the majority of responses have been supportive, constructive, there seems to be a reoccurring theme of dropping sarcastic comments or making irrelevant judgements about my life. I’ve seen threads and discussions by Muslim women indirectly making pretty judgemental comments – often blowing the things I’ve said way out of proportion.

Truthfully, I’m not one to dwell on negativity for too long. As I attempted to carry on with my work and blogging as usual, I noticed a strange thing happening…

Every time I sat down to write, I felt a massive wave of crippling resistance. I felt so much resistance to the point where even writing a paragraph was so daunting. I found myself holding back. I found myself wanting to not share as much. I found myself doubting whether to write or not. I questioned whether I was even worthy of having this level of achievement – I started this blog as a side project, getting well over half a million views per month was pretty substantial for me!

Here’s the biggest kicker to it all:

I found myself constantly needing to justify my hard work.

As though all those nights that I cried myself to sleep wasn’t enough. As though all those sacrifices I made to work on my dreams wasn’t enough.  As though all those times I felt vulnerable, anxious and hurt wasn’t enough. As though I wasn’t worthy to have these achievements – despite hustling hard for them.

For the first time ever, I felt guilty for being successful.

Don’t apologise for working your tush off to make it look so easy – because it ain’t! You have no idea what a person goes through before you judge them on social media. It’s very rare to have a blessing without some sort of struggle beforehand. When you see women do more/better/different than you, be happy for them without feeling any less of yourself. You have no idea what people are going through – often the blessings/highlights you see come after months and years of longing.

By all means give  feedback on my writing/ the topic that I’m discussing – just don’t bring my family into it. I consciously choose not to talk about my family (+ private life) because it’s such a sensitive, vulnerable part of my heart that I wish to keep private. But that’s the nature of some of these nasty comments – they have absolutely no bearing to what I write about. In other words, don’t make up stuff about another person’s life to make your self feel better.

Darling, I want to be real with you. I LOVE supporting and cheering on my besties for following their dreams but not everybody is going to treat you well for that. Following your passions, being happy and successful can make people feel uncomfortable. You can’t control how other people will react to your happiness but don’t ever dim your light because it’s too much for other people to handle.

27 comments on ““Don’t Apologise For Your Success” – My Story On Dealing With Negativity”

  1. Mashallah, this post is so raw. You mentioned beautiful examples. Like many of us, I took me a while to comprehend such life lessons. It sad that the reality that people might not wish you well. May Allah make us stronger and sincerer. May Allah grant you strength sister.

  2. Keep writing dear!! It’s a blessing from Almighty . Not everyone is blessed to put things in words by inspiring others , bringing in positivity.May Allah bless you .

  3. What a beautiful post sis, and as honest as it gets! Every bit spoke to meeee, ALL of it- and I recognise this can only be by the grace of Ar Rauf, through your heartfelt and brave sharing- Jazakhillah Khair and may Al Hafeedh, the preserving Guardian protect and preserve us all from diseases of the heart.

    This ummah of ours thrives when we collaborate, not compete and so much more of the awesomeness getting put out there right now (especially by sisters!) is illustrative of that Alhamdulillah.

    Thank you, thank you and keep doing you fabulously- I’m a newbie here and certainly inspired 😍💕

    • Ameen, thank you soooo much 💗💗💗💗

      Supporting each other is huge – as you’ve said it’s so lovely that we now have this influx of sisters in the online space – be it motherhood, deen, health, wealth, beauty, interior design – it’ soo inspiring!

      Thank you soo much for your kind words and support 💗May Allah keep you abundantly happy and smiling forever x

  4. I fail to understand why some people can be so judgemental sometimes; it breaks my heart to hear of such negativity! You keep doing you and keep writing sis <3 Don't let others come in the way of your dreams!

  5. I saw one of your articles in a group of Muslim Mums where the admin was scornful of it…to me it just reeked of judgemental petty women….who in all honesty are probably jealous.

    There will always be negativity wherever you go…you just have to rise above it and don’t let it get to you. You are doing a fab job masha’Allah.

  6. Yes!!! So long as we give credit to the Almighty for guiding us to our success, no one should ever feel guilty or be made to feel bad for being blessed with success. May Allah continue to bless you and all the hard working ladies (and men) with success 🙂

  7. It should have beeen hard for you. Alhamdhulillah, you are too strong to be shaken by such comments. Please continue your good work. All we need to care about is His pleasure. Those who are judging will be facing Judgement too.

  8. Omygoodness. This resonates with me so well. Love love this positive thinking. As I constantly struggle with the negativities around me. Much needed inspirational post of the day!

    • Jazakillah Khair Ameen 💗💗💗💗

      I’m so excited with the online community you’ve built through “Fun whilst fasting’ facebook group. When I read your comment, it just brought back memories of when you were talking about starting the group ages back and look where it is today! alhumdulilah 💖

  9. You keep on rocking, Hafsa. We may say things inappropriate, but we are all so proud to have a successful sister in this ummah. Love, Umeda from The Dua Journal

  10. This post applies to me so much right now! You hit the nail right on the head. We shouldn’t feel guilty for working hard and getting success out of it. May Allah bring you so much success in all of your work. You’re an inspiration, don’t let anyone ever bring you down ❤

    • Ameen 💗 and likewise – all the work you do is sooo inspirational (I look forward to all your pretty social media posts and love reading your blog) I remember spending ages on your site once hehehe. May Allah grant you happiness and abundance in everything that you do 💗

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