Focus On 1/2 Goals
What matters most to you this Ramadan?
I know the excitement of Ramadan makes us eager to take on a gazzilion things to do – and who wouldn’t? It’s the most wonderful time of the year. This is the month that can change your destiny. I don’t say that lightly. This is the month to obsessively ask Allah for all that your heart desires in this world and the akhirah. When it comes to setting up ourselves for a productive Ramadan, it’s better to focus on 1/2 areas that you want to improve upon versus a checklist of 30 goals which you quit after a week.
Which 2 areas in your life would you love to transform? Is it your relationship with the Quran or the way you serve your parents? Is it the charity that you give or how often you remember Allah throughout the day? Choose 2 areas of your life that you want to lovingly transform – not change. But a lasting transformation that will remain beyond this blessed month. Changing is too easy – it implies that once the period is over, you can go back. With a transformation, there is no going back. Set your heart upon 1 or 2 areas that you want to nourish and expand for life.
Clean Your Heart Every Night
This is such a wonderful hadith – I can’t even explain how beautiful this is! Every night, check in with yourself and gently release any pain or hurt.
The Messenger of Allah (peace be uppn Him) was sitting with a group of the Sahabah in the mosque and he said “A man will now enter [who is] from the people of Paradise.” and a sahabi (companion) walked in. Later it happened again, and then a third time. ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘aas (may Allah be pleased with him) wanted to find out what was so special about this man, so he asked the man if he could stay over his house for 3 days. The man allowed him to stay. ‘Abdullah noticed that the man didn’t do anything out of the ordinary: He didn’t fast all the time, he slept some of the night and prayed some of the night, and so on. So after the 3 days, ‘Abdullah told him the real reason why he requested to stay with him, and he asked him what it was that could be the reason why he was from the people of Jannah. The man couldn’t think of anything, but after a bit he said “Every night, before I go to sleep, I forgive whoever has wronged me. I remove any bad feelings towards anyone from my heart.”
(Kitab al-Zuhd by Ibn al-Mubarak – Number 694)
Use This Time To Make Up Qadha (Missed) Prayers
Most of my readers are women and whether it’s missing prayer due to starting menstruation really early (i.e. in primary school) or not taking a bath on time (i.e. you finish your menstruation at Zuhr prayer but shower after Maghrib) – this month is perfect to catch up on your missed prayers. Start with taking account of how many prayers you’ve roughly missed – and please don’t worry if it’s years. Gently catch up on those prayers – wherever you can complete a missed prayer.
Be Emotionally Fulfilled From Within
As a woman, you are the emotional leader of your family. If you’re easily agitated, frustrated and hormonal – you’re family will pretty much reflect that straight back to you (trust me, I’ve been there! oh plenty of times 😉 ). Half the battle of dealing with other people is dealing with ourselves. Make sure you’re rested and abundantly flowing with self-love. Even if it’s 5 minutes a day of slow breathing/ making dua/ taking a quick walk in nature – do something that lights you up from within.
Have A Plan/ Checklist That Works For You
A plan that gives you enough structure to be motivated and driven, but at the same the flexibility to live and enjoy each fasting day. (Yep, I said enjoy – fasting should energize you not deplete you). I love having the bigger vision in mind but the day to day freedom to do what I like each day – that what works for me. For you it might be structuring out chunks of time throughout the day or even managing your time by the hour. Perhaps you like to organise your schedule weeks in advance. Play around and find what works for you.
I’ve searched all over the internet and social media for a 2017 Ramadan planner + printable. These are my top 5 printables. 1) They’re free – who doesn’t like a freebie? 😉 2) They’re simple yet effective 3) They’re pretty – using visually beautiful planners, stationary, calendars really motivates and uplifts me.
Click on the planner you want and it will take you straight to the download page inshaAllah.
This Ramadan, if all you have is 15 minutes a day to increase your ibadah, pour your heart and soul into that. Make sure your heart is trembling in awe of Allah and your eyes weeping in fear of Allah in those 15 minutes. I hope this post has inspired you and given you a few ideas to try out. If you’ve found this blog post inspiring, please share it with your family and friends and as always, let me know your thoughts below – I love hearing from you.
From my heart to yours, have a blessed and wonderful Ramadan!