The days that I experienced the happiest moments with the people that I love, were always the days where I decided to make myself happy – first and foremost. When I decided to quit sulking, get my act together and do the things that light me up, shortly after (i.e. sometimes a few days or weeks), incredible experiences and heart-melting memories manifested into my world. That’s the power of self-love: when you change your relationship with yourself, people change their relationship with you. They were a reflection of the way I was feeling inside. Without even having to lift a finger, positive experiences and opportunities come your way. Isn’t that exciting?

This might sound a bit woo-woo, but let’s get straight into how this works! 😉

Your exterior world is a reflection of your interior world. Everything that happens outside of you is a reflection of what’s happening inside of you. If you want to attract greater happiness and success in your exterior world, it makes sense to begin with your interior world, right?

I’m a huge self-love advocate, but it’s more than just epsom salt baths, weekly facials and candle lit dinners. If the time you spend on yourself isn’t changing the way you show up in this world, it’s time to rethink the way you embody self-love. Whilst self-love is about taking care of yourself, being your own bestie, having your own back 100%, showing up as the most authentically and beautiful version of you, any self-love ritual that you commit to should always , always, always…

RAISE YOUR VIBRATION.

How do you become overflowing with happiness and bursting with love? Raise your vibration.

Every self-love ritual should leave you feeling completely full from within.

That is the key to feeling amazing in your day to day life and to effortlessly attracting more happiness and success.   

Fill your day with things that make you truly happy. (Hint: it’s not binge-watching Youtube or eating the third slice of your gluten free chocolate brownie ‘treat’). Soul-full activities that raise your vibration in this world. Activities that make you feel good whilst doing it and after you’ve finished. Activities that uplift your mood and change the entire rhythm of your day. Activities that leave you feeling immensely grateful to Allah. Activities that deeply connect you with your body and sensuality.

Why is this so powerful?

Because it teaches you that your happiness and peace lies within your control.

Your happiness isn’t wrapped up within one person/ one career path/ one role… Your happiness is anywhere you cultivate it. As your life is today. It teaches you to stop giving your power to people/jobs/circumstances and start bringing forth the power that lies within.

In doing so you become a powerful magnet for all those things tugging at your heart. When you completely let go that’s when things are most likely to happen. Do you realise that when you’re least thinking about it,  that’s when the magic happens? When your least up in your mind, that’s when you sparkle the most in the present moment. All of those unexpected surprises, moments that swept your heart away, work progressions that you didn’t anticipate, new clients that you couldn’t foresee… trickles down to the power of self-love.   

A woman who completely trusts Allah, what level of energy and certainty is she vibrating at? When your heart is bursting with gratitude to Allah, what kind of energy are you giving off? That energy and vibration will manifest your dream life. Wouldn’t you rather manifest your dream life without the mental struggle of wanting to be somewhere else? Wouldn’t you rather gracefully accept what Allah has destined for you and in the mean time rock out whatever life holds for you today?

Now it’s over to you beautiful. What self-love rituals raise your vibration? What leaves you feeling immensely grateful to be alive? The rituals that light up your world, do them more often. Raise your vibration, change the energy that you’re giving off to the world and what you get back will be far more exciting and heart exploding happiness than you could ever imagine.

P.s If you’d like to delve deeper into creating a healthy foundation of self-love, work on raising your vibration and mastering inner mean girl thoughts, book in a free 60 minute coaching session with me here.

17 comments on “The Self-Love Advice That Every Woman Should Read”

  1. Ma sha Allah this is awesome! What raises my vibrations is simply gratitude to Allah SWT for all the countless blessings. Remembering how He has always made ways for me out of every difficulty, and guided me to learn so much. Alhamdulillah.

    • Wasalaam,

      A book on coaching for self-love…. hmmmm not that I can think of. Other books on self-love that I’d highly recommend are: You can heal your life by Louise Hay and Mastering your mean girl by Melissa Ambrosini – two of my favourite books for self-love. Hope that helps x

  2. This article couldn’t have come at a more perfect time! I am such an advocate of self love and the importance of it. This week I got super busy and forgot to give myself some me time. Will definitely take the time out this week inshallah!

  3. Going around the chores…we just forget to please our self…things which make us happy…..even it is just a small cup of tea…we tend to run fulfilling other jobs that we forget ourselves…great post…self love is much needed to every women…

  4. Going for a walk early morning usually raises my happiness but haven’t been able to do it for a long time. Writing and some me time by reading makes me happy often.
    Love reading your posts btw😊

  5. You are so right, our exterior world is truly a reflection of the inner world. Too many times, i notice this with my business and relationships.

    As its commonly said, you can’t give what you don’t have. So having a well nourished soul will flow out to well nourished world enveloping and welcoming you.

  6. I really love how you define self-love as filling your soul. It’s important to differentiate temporary and unhealthy pleasure from pleasure that will last and impact you and those around you. And it’s so true, when you truly learn to love yourself and be grateful and be positive your surroundings change and the world approaches you differently. Jazakallah khair for another beautiful post.

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